I’ve had quite a few people tell me that I am not in an interracial relationship and my baby isn’t of mixed of race. The reasoning is that my husband isn’t black. I find this kind of puzzling. Isn’t Chinese a different race? He speaks a different language, has a different cultural heritage, and is from a different geographical area. It seems more interracial to me than two people born in the same country.
The issue of race in America is complicated. It is probably a matter of perspective. The people who have told me race is only black and white have been people who classify themselves as either black or white. Plus I live in the south.
The government considers us to be different races most of the time. We are asked about race on standard forms where my husband and I check different boxes. If different race boxes are checked, doesn’t that make us interracial? I always thought an interracial relationship was one where two people of different races were in a relationship together. It apparently depends on which races are checked. Some are more applicable than others.
Sometimes we are the same race. If I don’t disclose race, people assume I’m Asian by my name. Then again, if I check the box for white, people still assume I’m Asian on paper. Some forms now limit the race selections to two boxes: 1. Hispanic; 2. Non-hispanic. Those forms really narrow the scope of interracial.
Perhaps the labels of race only apply when racism is involved?
One of the same people who told me that interracial only applies to black and white couples also told me that it was racist to have a panda themed baby shower. How is it racist if Chinese/Asian is not considered a different race then my own? Bigger question, how am I racist for liking pandas? Would zebras have been more PC? Pandas are the least racist animal – they are Black, White, and Asian at the same time! (haha – sorry for the lame joke)
Well, when picking out a halloween costume for my little boy, I decided against the banana costume. A little newborn in a banana costume sounds too cute but there is a bit too much meaning applied to that banana when that newborn is half Chinese and half white. Funny how I had to consider the race of my unborn child when he isn’t even considered mixed.
Sometimes I miss China where there is no political correctness.