I guess I have run into my first real hurdle of marrying a Chinese person. A hurdle that for the first time has made me question my choices. I finally achieved my dream job after blood sweat and tears to have it taken away from me because of my husband’s citizenship. Even when he does eventually apply for American citizenship, his background and connections in China will always be a red flag.
I was on a clear path before graduating from college with great jobs lined up for me. I gave them up to go back to China to be with my now husband, thinking if I was able to get those jobs once I could get them again. A great love story, right? A girl puts caution to wind and flies across the world chasing love. Now, years later I’m starting to doubt that decision. Should I have put love before career? Had I first started my career and then married, I wouldn’t have this issue. Now that I am married to a Chinese national, I have a red flag in my file that may forever keep from getting the security clearance I need to start the career that I want.
I wonder if I will have forever sacrificed my career dreams by chasing my fairytale love story.